A few little things that got me ranting this week.
The categorization requirement: The insatiable need for things to be black, white or grey. For example, if a woman is happy to be single and not actively look for a boyfriend, she is apparently gay. Either that, or she has never harboured dreams of getting married and so is not working towards it. And if somehow, there is some sign of her having an inclination towards getting married, but still not interested enough to go on dates, or is perfectly happy to let things take a natural course; then she is most certainly pretending to be a modern woman interested in developing a career. Oh, or probably has a secret boyfriend whom no one will approve of and hence the facade of having a career and the demand for privacy.
The need to justify leisure: You bought yourself a new t-shirt? Cool. I do not need to hear how you have been wearing your other five t-shirts for more than a hundred years and hence needed to buy a new one now. It’s none of my business how many t-shirts you own and whether or not you bought a new one because all your other clothes were worn out or just because it looked nice. Oh and heaven forbid if it turns out to be something very fashionable or trendy. Then, definitely, it must have been the pushy salesgirl who forced you to buy this instead of the sober white buttoned-up shirt you would have bought otherwise.
You had pizza for dinner last night? Great. Oh so my neutral response is not going to dissuade you from telling me the whole story about how it had been such a long time since you last had pizza and you felt your children would also like to have some? Ok sure, go ahead, finish your story. But please for the next time remember that you do not need to justify your decisions or actions to me or to anyone, just because there is a slight chance that they rose from something more than just ‘need’.
The insufferable desire to appear better than others: Or better than you actually are. I might do a whole post on this later at some point. For now, just a little rant. We allow our lives to be dictated more by what we want people to think of us, rather than what we actually want for ourselves. It is understandable to not want to discuss your failures or mistakes in public, but why do you need to misrepresent so severely that it almost seems like you’re leading a double life? One inside your house, and one outside. One for yourself, and one for the people you want to impress. Are you really that unhappy with who you are? Then would it not be more fruitful to channel your energy in attempting to lead a life about which you will not feel the need to lie?
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Sometimes I wonder how important is religion. Sometimes I wonder where its two ends are. Is it between me and my maker? Or is it between the fanatic leader and the sheep. Or is it between the sheep and those forced to be the sheep. Why is it necessary to have a religious foundation of a modern civilization? Why are there arguments in favour of making a nation a Hindu country, a Muslim country, a Christian country? Who, in the first place, decided that dividing the world into countries was the most effective way for people to co-exist? And who decided how to draw those lines of division? Because the last time I checked, it wasn’t working out very well.
Why is it that educated, intelligent young men and women are using phrases such as ‘intellectuals with Hindu names’ for moderate Hindus? Why is it that in a so-called secular country there exist excellent arguments for justification of genocide? As long as is it in response to another community’s violence or hatred, it is absolutely alright. That again raises the question: Is a secular country really secular? In a country where we have intelligentsia arguing that the country is primarily the country of people who were there from the ‘start’, and that ‘pre-foreign rule’ (pre-British, pre-Mughal, pre-every invader) values need to be brought back, can you expect true secularism? It doesn’t matter that this argument derides the basic premise of development as it fails to recognise that the present day civilisation, with both its positive and negatives, exists in the first place as a result of everything that has happened in this country up until yesterday. What happens if after following a certain faith for half of my life, while living in a country predominantly occupied with people of that faith, I suddenly find my peace in another religion. Would I then have to pack my bags and move to another country? Or should I then accept that from that point onwards, I will always be a second class citizen in a country that was till then my home?
What if I don’t have a religion? Is it so important for a child to be born into a religion? To the extent that an inter-religious marriage is deemed impossible because the children born of that marriage will not have a religion. But what if that child grows up to give up his religion anyway? Or worse still, become a fanatic, be it intellectual or the kind with guns. But coming back to me, what if I don’t have a religion? Does it matter that I don’t believe in a God as long as I am not a burden on the society? But where do I live then? Whom do I marry? Am I then a second class citizen of this planet where almost every country has a religion? But perhaps I should not worry too much about the atheists. Maybe it is not as hard for them to peacefully co-exist in this world, as you can’t really tell them by their appearance, might even mistake them for ‘an intellectual with a Hindu name’.
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